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Remember when I mentioned that the first several months of marriage were a bit, um, doubt-plagued? Well, it’s now officially one year to the day from my wedding and here’s my follow-up advice: It gets better. Hang in there.  Ride out the wave, if you will.  I’m so happy to report that after writing that post, the cloud of despair I’d been trying to ignore lifted and suddenly. I no longer doubted my decision to get married.  I felt like, maybe it all could *and would* get better.

And then, amazingly,…it did.  Things got good.  So good I sometimes can’t believe I am lucky enough to be living this life and have to cross my fingers and my toes in order to prevent from jinxing it all.

It’s true what they say, the harder you fall, the higher you bounce.  It seems that, for me, the hard moments have made the good ones that much better.  Perhaps I would not appreciate what I have now if I hadn’t experienced the bruises of a bumpy road beforehand.

It’s bizarre that it’s been one year since our wedding.  It feels like forever ago yet it’s probably a rare day where I don’t reminisce, just a little.  The wedding was, and I suspect will remain, one of the best days of my life.

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Yet, I don’t miss being knee-deep in vendor discussions and stressing over table assignments. I don’t miss the stomachache-inducing anxiety of possible mishaps or the frustration over craft projects gone wrong (so many.  SO so many gone horribly wrong.)

I do, however, miss the anticipation of what was to come, of looking forward to this sure-to-be-wonderful event and of all the attention and love that comes with it.

Ah well, guess I’ll just have to get myself knocked up sometime soon so I have something to look forward to, right? (Calm down, I’m not preggo, just making a bad, joking analogy. Also, “analogy” has the word “anal” in it.  That’s funny.) I also miss crafting, which, given my previous statement, is just so damn ironic.

Anyways, I guess what I’m trying to say is that we weathered the storm.  We bounced back, higher and stronger and together.

I frequently remind myself of the advice that Jimmy Dugan gives to Dottie Henson in (thebestmoviever!) A League of Their Own.  Even though he’s technically talking about baseball, I think it’s dead-on for marriage as well…

“It’s supposed to be hard. If it wasn’t hard, everybody would do it.  The hard…is what makes it great.”

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Happy anniversary, love of my life! You have all of my love for all of my life.


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